Monday, 15 October 2007

Living a somewhat nomadic life until I settled here in Brisbane, I met many people who came & went in my life, and others who stayed in contact & built life-time friendships.

I could never work out why EVERYONE didn't remain friends. As a young person, I always felt that one should aim to be friends for life & that it was a responsibility to follow through with a friendship for as long as I drew breath. Then, I learned a valuable lesson about people coming into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I learned that it's not imperative or possible that everyone stays forever active for/with you.

The thing is to identify what positions people hold in your life. When you know which time-frame a person occupies in your world, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a reason, it's usually to meet a need you have expressed. They may have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. These people are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes there is nothing left to say.

What we must realise is that our needs have been met, our desires fulfilled, & the 'work' is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a season, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real.

But only for a season.

Lifetime relationships teach you lifelong lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

Cherish every one of these groups of people. Rejoice in their role in your life. All are important people who blissfully enrich your existence. You, in turn, touch their lives too.

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